The Fragility of Ego and the Importance of Self-Worth

In our professional lives, we sometimes encounter moments that test our ego and self-worth. It's in these moments that we confront the delicate balance between pride in our accomplishments and our vulnerabilities. I recently had such an experience, a seemingly ordinary meeting that turned into a profound lesson on the nature of ego in our work lives.


The Incident

The meeting, arranged by my director, was an introduction to a young and successful entrepreneur from the food industry. As he was lauded for his entrepreneurial achievements, I felt a surge of genuine admiration. When my turn came, I introduced myself with pride, discussing my consulting background and gesturing towards the financial statements on the table as a testament to my expertise. However, my director’s jest about such skills not being lucrative struck me more deeply than I expected.


Reflection on Ego

This offhand comment, though made in jest, sharply brought into focus the fragility of our professional egos. In environments where achievements and skills are proudly displayed, a light-hearted remark can unexpectedly undermine our sense of self-worth. This incident served as a stark reminder: our egos extend beyond mere confidence, being deeply linked to how others perceive our value.


Learning from the Experience

The primary lesson from this experience is the importance of recognizing the fragility of our ego. Pride in our professional achievements is natural, yet we must also be aware of how vulnerable our egos are to external opinions. Building resilience and maintaining a healthy perspective on self-worth are crucial, especially when it is not solely dependent on our job or career achievements. While my director's comment held a degree of truth when compared to the entrepreneur's success, I am reminded that my skills have indeed been valuable and profitable in my previous roles.



This incident transcended a mere fleeting moment; it was a profound lesson in understanding and managing the ego. In the competitive landscape of the professional world, cultivating an ego that is both resilient and humble is essential. Acknowledging the fragility of our ego enables us to truly appreciate our worth beyond our job titles and to remain receptive to constructive feedback. Ultimately, the journey involves finding a balance between taking pride in our achievements and embracing the humility to acknowledge our value beyond external recognition.


Note: this was written with the aid of ChatGPT. 

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